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Monday, February 8, 2016

Round Up: 100 Ways For Singles To Have The Very Best Valentine's Day

Valentine's Day is coming up.  As you long time readers know I am single.  I have been single for way more Valentine's Days than I have been in a relationship.  Actually I think I have only had a Valentine about 2 or 3 times.  So, I know that Valentine's day can sometimes suck if you are a single person.  But that does not have to be the case.  I'll admit that I would rather have a special Mr. Joy Chaser in my life to be all lovey dovey with this weekend but that simply is not the case.  However this will not be a sucky weekend for me and it does not have to be a sucky one for you. To help my brothers and sisters in singledome I have done a round up of 100 ways you can not only survive but have have your very best Valentine's day

1.  Maybe you feel like you just need to survive the day.  Here's how  -  How To Survive Valentines Day When You're Not in a Relationship

2. - 8.  Not all singles are bitter about being alone on Valentine's Day.  Here are 7 positive ideas on how to spend Valentine's Day. - 7 Ways For All The Single Ladies To OWN Valentine's Day This Year.  

9.  If you have a fun and sarcastic wit consider giving friends anti-Valentine's Day gifts  - 25 Anti-Valentine's Day Gifts For Your Single Girlfriends

10. - 39. I'll be doing number 4 from this list.  I'll be headed out of town to do some blogging business on the road. - 30 Valentine's Day Ideas for Fabulous Singles

40.  Instead of Valentine's Day, Celebrate Singles' Awareness Day instead - Great Ideas For Single Awareness Day (S.A.D.) On February 14

41. - 47.  Here are 7 ideas from the most popular girls guide, Cosmo. - The Single Girl's Valentine's Day

48.  - 51. Single’s Awareness Day might spell out SAD, but that doesn’t mean you have to be. Here are 4 ways to get through the day.  - The Single Girl’s Guide to Surviving Valentine’s Day

52. How about working on a really simple Valentine's Day Craft. Make our own free Love Joy Book Marks designed by moi, with free printable - Valentine's Day Gift, Free Love Joy Printable Bookmarks

53. - 59. Not all singles are women. Here are 7 Valentine's Day ideas from the guys perspective. - How To Spend Valentine's Day Alone. From Ask Men

60 - Watch movies that celebrate your singleness. Take your pick from these 32 films - 32 Movies To Make You Feel Great About Being Single On Valentine's Day

61. - 69. Here are 9 fun ideas for Valentine's Day, including learning the Single Ladies Dance.  - How To Spend Valentine’s Day Single This Year (& Love It!)

70.  Make a decadent single serving dessert just for you - 90+ Small Batch Desserts

71. - 80. Here are 10 Valentine's Day ideas for singles that include parents, pets, and strangers who could become future pals. - 10 Ideas for Singles to Have the Happiest Valentines Day Ever

81. - 87.  Here are 7 more ideas on how to make Valentine's Day awesome including making a list of why it is awesome to be single. -  Even More Valentine’s Day Ideas For The Single Girl

88. Make some Valentine's Day cupcakes to share with friends and family 10 Easy Ideas for Valentine's Day Cupcakes

89. Or if you enjoy your dark side make a bloody heart cake and indulge while watching your favorite horror movies. Bloody Heart Valentine's Day Cake

90. - 98. These ideas includes baking, babysitting, and bookstores - 9 Ways Singles Can Have a Great Valentine's Day

99. How about a Valentine's Day Drinking Game for Singles The Valentine’s Day Drinking Game For Single People

100. Spend sometime reflecting on past bad dates and be happy you are single.  Here is one of mine - Dating a CAJT (Crazy Ass Joy Thief)

With all of these ideas I'm sure us single folk can have the very best Valentine's Day.  How will you be spending Valentine's Day? If you are not single now what did you do on Valentines Day when you were?  

Friday, February 5, 2016

Miscarriage Update, Nothing Joyful About It.

Oh how I wish every post on Chasing Joy could be a happy one.  Unfortunately that is not the case.  On Fridays I post Baby Making Updates on my journey to becoming a Single Mother By Choice.  Last Fridays Baby Making Update was a sad one.  This one is a little sad too.   However, Chasing Joy is not about every day being happy.  Chasing Joy is about making the decision to pursue happiness and grab on to as much joy as you can even in the midst of heartache.  So this Baby Making Update and last week's are just as important as all of the others.   This week's video is about the procedure I had to resolve my missed miscarriage.  By sharing my experience I know I may be helping a woman who is or will go through something similar.

As always thanks for your support.  Keep Chasing Joy, especially during hard times.

Monday, February 1, 2016

Four Reasons You Will Love And Find Joy At Philadelphia Restaurant Week

Restaurant Week!!!!  I love Restaurant Week. I even did a video about Restaurant Week when I was participating in VEDA.   Restaurant Week just ended here in Philly and I got to go on the last day.  This was probably like my 20th time.  Philadelphia Restaurant Week happens twice a year. I have gone twice a year for many many many years.  Why do I go every single time?  Because it brings me Joy.  I love it for these four reasons.
Friends - The company you keep makes all the difference.  Lucky for me I keep pretty good company.  I have girlfriends from college, childhood, work, blogging, zumba, etc... These ladies are all different but the one thing we all have in common is we have full lives.  We work, travel, take care of our families, and pursue our passions.  That means we all also don't have much time.  The fact that we have consistently gotten together for restaurant week is awesome.  Sometimes there are as many as eight of us for dinner.  Other times there are ony three or four of us.  Twice a year for the last ten years we've managed to coordinate schedules for Restaurant Week.
Food - In all of these years I have only hade one bad dinning experience.  Honeslty, it was more the service than the food that made that one experience bad. The Restaruants in Center City Philly do not dissapoint.  I do not have the most adventurous pallet so I have gone to steak houses and Italian reastaurants more than any other cousine. Ruth's Chris, The Capital Grill,  McCormick And Schmicks, Chima, and The Plough & The Stars have given me very fond and tastey Restaurant Week memories.  This time I made our reservation at Mixto .  Mixto offers Cuban, Latin American and Caribbean cuisine and it did not dissapoint.  I tried Chicken and Beef Empanadas, Paella, Plantains, and Chocolate Cake.  I also had two very yummy cocktails (Yay, I wasnt driving!!! LOL ).  It was all so good. I've never had a bad meal at Reastaurante week. 

Atmosphere -  I do not live in Center City Philadelphia. So usually if I go out to eat it is to a chain restaurant or a dinner in another part of the city.  Dinning out in Center City is just a different vibe.  It is a fun vibe.  An adult vibe.  I like it!!!  
Me Time - Like I mentioned above.  All of us ladies who meet up for Restaurant Week have very full lives.  A lot of our time is spent doing boring responsible stuff like working, exercising, and taking care of loved ones.  It is nice to have these few hours a couple times a year to do something fun. We don't bring kids, husbands, boyfriends, or parents.  We just take time to enjoy oursleves.  
Restaurant Week is awesome and I highly recommend you participate.  I know cities other than Philadelphia have restaurante week as well.  One year my summer vacation to South Beach happend to be during their Restauant Week.  We definitly kicked our vacation dining up a knotch that year.  Philadelphia Center City Restaurant Week will probably take place again in the summer.  You can book mark the website and follow the @PhilaRestWeek twitter account to know for sure.
South Beach Restaurant Week 2008

Something as simple as my routine of going out for restaurant week is a great source of Joy.  It makes me happy to look forward to it, the food is good, I reconnect with friends, and the atmoshpere is great. It is important to make time to do things that bring you joy.  It is important to connect with friends who give you joy.  Restaurant week allowed me to do both.  When was the last time you did something that gave you joy?  When was the last time you spent time with friends who give you joy?

Friday, January 29, 2016

Baby Making Update: Am I Pregnant or Not??? IUI #6 Using Donor Sperm Results


It's time to test!  I have to say this was my most emotional experience thus far. Was my 6th IUI THE ONE!!!

Let's find out... Oh, special shout out for all who watch the video to the end.  Sorry it's a long one, but like I said lot's of emotional stuff to cover. 

Click here > Pregnant or Not Pregnant < if you have trouble viewing the embedded video to watch it from my YouTube channel.

I'd love to hear your thoughts on the results in the comments below.

Wednesday, January 27, 2016

Using Scripture In A Practical Way To Chase Joy

Using Scripture to ward off worry and negative thinking.
This year my theme word is surrender as I realize one of the main things that robs me of the joy I'm chasing is worrying about things that I cannot control.  I need to surrender those things to God.

As I develop goals through the year I am keeping my word, surrender, in mind.  One of the first goals I came up with is a practical way I can shift my thoughts and surrender when worry starts to rear it's ugly head.  Before I tell you what the goal is I'll tell you what made me think of it. Bill Cosby!  Do you believe that???  LOL

We all know the trouble Bill Cosby is in.  Weather you agree or disagree with the rape allegations we can all agree that he engaged in some behaviors that are inconsistent with the clean cut, Dr. Huxtable, image that he projected.  Well, every time I would see something in the news about him I would think "what you do in the dark will come to the light".  I knew this was from a scripture.  When I looked it up it is from Luke 8:17 which says ""For nothing is hidden that will not become evident, nor anything secret that will not be known and come to light."  When talking to my mom about Cosby I told her about recalling that message and I thought if only I would think up scriptures whenever I thought about other negative things and then I had my idea for one of my goals for this year.

One of my goals for 2016 is to memorize scripture.  I'd like to do one every week but some scriptures take longer than others.  We are about four weeks into the new year and I am up to three scriptures so far.  I don't have them down 100% yet but I'll keep practicing.  My hope is that when I find myself worrying or engaging in other types of negative self talk I can instead recall a scripture that fits the situation.

Here are the three I've been working on so far:
Philippians 4:8
Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things.
Philippians 1:6
being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.
Galatians 6:9 
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.
Spiritual practice is one of the pillars I use to Chase Joy.  This goal of memorizing scripture will help me manage my tendency towards worry and quite my negative thoughts. I hope to have at least 40 memorize by the end of the year.  Good goal are SMART Goals: specific, measurable, actionable, realistic, and time sensitive. My goal of memorizing scriptures is definitely SMART.

Have you set any goals for 2016? Are they SMART? How will your goals help you chase joy Have you ever memorized scripture? How does your spiritual practice help you chase joy?
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