Friday, October 24, 2014

Increase Blog Traffic on #FlashbackFriday: Are You Your Biggest Fan

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And The Winner Is......

Happy Friday Joy Chasers!  Before we dive into the Flashback I have an announcement to make.  The winner of the $30 She Thinx Gift Card is LaTanya.  Her raffle copter entry of the following tweet was selected at random from the entries.
Congrats LaTanya!!!!

Now that that business has been taken care of let's dive into #FlashbackFriday.    Every Friday on Chasing Joy we flash back to some of our older posts to give them a moment in the spotlight.  Pick any older post you like and add it below.  Link ups are fun and a great way to increase your blog traffic and find new blogs to read!!!  You can also increase blog traffic by sharing your post on the Chasing Joy Facebook page and on Twitter using the hashtag #FlashbackFriday.  Also, I will Pin your post to the new #FlashbackFirday Pinterest Board.

** Please Note** Linkys only work when everyone plays fair.  Be sure to visit at least two other blogs from the link up and leave  a comment.  Pick any two you like or keep it simple and visit the two blogs linked up before yours.  If you link up early be sure to come back and visit a blogs that linked up after you.

My favorite posts from last week's link up are:
Yulunda @ Y I'm Writeous post which reminds us to be humble and not judge others. 
Lynne at The Sweet Midlife post which shows just how much music, memories, and emotions all tie together.   
I am linking up my post Are You Your Biggest Fan.  It is all about how self esteem and confidence are top priority even when we are talking about style and looking our best.

Now it is your turn, add your link below.  What are you linking up this week?  


Wednesday, October 22, 2014

35 for 35 Update: 2 Down 33 To Go

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It's been about a month since I came up with my 35 for 35 lost. This is a list of things I'd like to do either before I turn 35 or during my 35th year.  Here is the lost and what I've accomplished so far.

1-9. Numbers are people.  Actually it is a short list of people I'd like to have lunch or dinner with.  They are friends I don't see often and people I'd like to get to know better.  A few are bloggers friends.
10.  Lose 24lb. by my birthday. See my SMART Goals
11 & 12 are both home repairs.  I need to fix my sidewalk and I'd like a ceiling fan put in my bedroom.  I've wanted/needed to do both of these repairs for a while.  Home repair makes me feel stressed.
13. Get a boyfriend.  See my SMART Goals
14. Pay off a personal loan by my birthday.
16. A monthly Spa Treatment (facial, massage, body treatment)
17. Get up to drinking a gallon of water a day.
18. Buy myself a nice piece of jewelry
19. Get myself fresh flowers every week
20.Go to a Sixers Game
21. Go to an Opera
22. Plan Chasing Joy Charity Event
23. Move my blog to word press
24. Go to the Holiday light show and events in Center City
25. Drive through a neighborhood that does the Christmas Light Display
26. Get a new computer
27. Visit a new church
28.Go to the aquarium
29. Visit the DC monuments & attractions.
30. Write 1st draft of Chasing Joy Book. See SMART Goals
31. Plan a fun birthday party.
32. Go to the zoo.
33. Go to a Hockey game
34. Find a Volunteer opportunity that I like.
35. See the Lion King

Out of 35 two are complete.   Numbers 1 to 9 on my lost were different friends I wanted to meet up with.  I did hang out with one a few weeks back.  It was great catching up. Now to make plans with the other 8 friends.

Number 27 on the list was to visit a new church.  I did that last Sunday and it was good.  While my faith is strong and my values are good, I do struggle with the act of going to church.  I am happy that my experience at the new church (new to me) was good and I am planning to attend again.

So that's 2 down and 33 to go.  Have you ever made a list of things you'd like to do by your birthday? What were some of the things on your list? Did you accomplish them all? 

Monday, October 20, 2014

Avoid Falling Into A Funk During Rough Times. Think About The Best Days Of Your Life.

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I have been having a really rough few weeks.  My mom who has an ongoing illness has been in and out of the hospital a lot and just feeling really crappy even while at home.  It's so hard to watch someone you love go through difficulties.  

It would be so easy for me to fall into a funk right now but I really want to ward that off. So I am going to focus on the phrase this too shall pass, remembering all of the times God has come through for me, and sharing a few of the best days of my life.

In no particular order:
  • Going to see Oprah's Life You Want Tour.  What an amazing experience it left me smiling for days.  Read about it here.  
  • Driving home on my 1st car (that im still driving) 9 years ago. I'd researched it, picked it out and financed it all by myself.   My dad went with me and he was just as excited and proud of me as I was. 
  • The day my ex surprised me with roses at work and latter told me he had put money on an engagement ring.  Things did not work out with us but it was such a great feeling to feel loved and confident in having a partner to go through life with.   I look forward to experiencing that again when I find my Mr. Joy Chaser.
  • My college graduation from Temple University.  I felt so proud of myself and excited about my future.
  • My high school senior proms.  These were the first times I got a glimpse of myself as an attractice and maybe even sexy woman. 
 There were many other joyful days in my life. These are a few of the best.  Despite being worried about my mom I am smilong as I type this.  During tough times remembering our best days can help us stay hopeful and positive.

What are some of the best days of your life?



Friday, October 17, 2014

Increase Blog Traffic on #FlashbackFriday: Renovation My Temple

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It's Friday Joy Chasers!  That means it is time to increase your blog traffic by linking up for #FlashbackFriday!  Don't have a blog?  That's Ok.  Use the #FlashbackFriday linky to find some some new blogs to read.

Here are the details. Every Friday on Chasing Joy we flash back to some of our older posts to give them a moment in the spotlight.  Pick any older post you like and add it below.  Link ups are fun and a great way to increase your blog traffic and find new blogs to read!!!  You can also increase blog traffic by sharing your post on the Chasing Joy Facebook page and on Twitter using the hashtag #FlashbackFriday.  Also, I will Pin your post to the new #FlashbackFirday Pinterest Board.  

** Please Note** Linkys only work when everyone plays fair.  Be sure to visit at least two other blogs from the link up and leave  a comment.  Pick any two you like or keep it simple and visit the two blogs linked up before yours.  If you link up early be sure to come back and visit a blogs that linked up after you.

My favorite posts from last week's link up are:
Yulunda's post on how to build up others and be supportive.
Shameika's post on the rapper Common, Cheerleading, and Greatness is just that, Greatness. 
This week I am linking up Renovating My Temple which discusses some behavior modifications that I thought would help me be healthier and lose weight.  I need to revisit this list.

What are you linking up?  Tell us in the comments.  Then add your blog post to the linky below. Don't forget to grab the #FlashbackFriday button from the sidebar above.

Wednesday, October 15, 2014

4 Things That You Can Control When Life is Out of Control

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There are times when life is really hard and out of control.  You may have a sick relative, trouble at work, difficulties with your spouse, bill collectors that won't stop calling, feel lonely, or any other sad circumstance in your life.   During these times we may feel helpless and out of control, like life is happening to us.  This is the feeling I hate the most.  I felt a lot like this the other week when my mom was sick.  I felt helpless and like I could not control anything.  However, at some point I did have an epiphany.  I realized that no matter what was going on in my life there are a few things that I have complete control of.

Focusing on what you can control when life is putting you through the ringer will help you keep it together until more joyful times return.  Here are 4 things that are within your control even when life is kicking your tail. 
  1. What goes in your mouth.  Emotional eating is a real thing.  In general it is not a good thing and can lead to weight gain and an unhealthy relationship with food.  However, when things around you are making you feel like you have no say in anything in your life.  Deciding to have that favorite treat can help.  Or an even better option would be remembering that you can have complete control of the quality of the food you eat and choosing something that will not only make you feel good but be good for you.
  2. Your spiritual practice. There are no circumstances or situations in life that you cannot pray about.  It does not cost you any money and very little time.  You can multi-task even.  I have prayed while walking, driving, eating, showering, etc...  You can even ask other to pray with or for you.  Prayer can give you a calming feeling and having other's pray for you can help you remember that you are not alone.  I find prayers thanking God for all of the good things that are happening helps me remember that not everything is bad because.  For example when my mom was in the hospital I routinely thanked God for allowing me to be able to be there with her, that I lived so close to the hospital, and that my car was working to take me back and forth.  Those gratitude remanded me that God was still working even during the difficult time.  
  3. Your thoughts.  This can be a hard one.  I struggle to control my thoughts and keep them joyful.  It is a struggle but it is possible and I am getting better at it.  One method I use is when I have worrisome thoughts is to tell myself that it is not time to think about that yet and focus on something else.  I may have to do it multiple times though but practice makes perfect.  Another method I use is distraction. For me this comes in the form of Netflix, YouTube, candy crush, Sudoku,  reading blogs, and doing anything that will take my mind off of stressful things.
  4. How you look.  When thing are not going well it may feel silly or even shallow to focus on your appearance.  But making sure your clothes and hair are neat and clean can go along way towards making you feel better.  Add a little blush or putting on your favorite color can give you a bigger boost.  It may sound shallow but there are times when being able to say at least I look cute may be the thing that keeps you going.
I hope you don't find yourself in a situation where you feel life is just happening to you any time soon.  However if you do focus on the few things that you can control and make the best of those choices.  What are some things you focus on when life gets super stressful?  What things do yo feel are always within your control regardless of what else is going on in your life?  

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