Wednesday, August 27, 2014

5 Years Without Dad

There are just some days in life that are not the easiest.  Today is one of those days.  5 years ago today I lost my dad.  It is very hard to believe that 5 years have gone by so quickly.  Part of me still feels like it is unfair that life could continue on without him.   Time should have stood still.  The world is incomplete without him. However, no matter how I feel time goes on.  Life continues and I have to continue Chasing Joy.  That is after all what he would want for me.  So on a difficult day like today I try to create Joy where there could easily be none.  I could stay at home in bed and wallow in the grief of losing my dad. Grief that is still way to easy to access even though it is no longer floating on the surface of my life.  But I won't.  Instead I will do these two things:
1. Take myself out of situations that can be stressful and that  require me to be emotionally stable, aka work.  On a day like today it is hard to know if I will feel sad or not.  I don't want the added pressure of trying not to cry at work.  
2. Do something fun.  The last thing my dad would want is for me to sit around and be sad in memory of him. 

In his death my dad taught me what unconditional love is.  Five years later I can feel him loving me just as strong as when he was her.  I am so blessed to be Bill Hartie's daughter.  

How do you deal with tough days like the anniversary of a loved ones passing?  

Monday, August 25, 2014

A Joyful Time at #FitRetreatPhl with #CityFitGirls

Happy Monday Joy Chasers. Today I was planning to pick up where I left off last week talking about how to make my goal SMART goals. I wrote about the letter S, making my goal specific.   Next up is to make sure my goals are Measurable for the letter M.  But instead, today I want to talk to you about a great experience I had this weekend.

This Saturday I attended Fit Retreat Philadelphia.  This was a fitness conference hosted by City Fit Girls.  The conference was from 9 am to 2 pm.  There were exercise classes like running,  biking, kick boxing, club cardio, yoga, HIIT, and Belly Dancing every hour.  There were also health workshops on the psychology of food, meditation,  juicing,  body image, healthy shopping and others.   I really enjoyed this format of having both  exercise classes and workshops to choose from.  I would not have been able to work out all day id it were just classes.

There were so many options for how to spend the day. This is what I chose:

9:00 club cardio
10:00 psychology of food
11:00 juicing
12:00 body image
1:00 belly dancing

In addition to the classes and workshop the ticket also included a salad lunch and networking with the vendors.  I chatted quite a bit with the vendors of Thinx about their mission to improve the quality of life for girls in Uganda. They asked me to review one of their products so stay tuned for that.

The fitness classes were good but challenging.   When we started the club cardio class one of my first thoughts was on no, am I in over my head here?  I take zumba regularly but this club cardio was more exercise than dancing.  The instructor said for us to do 50 jumping jacks.  I wasn't sure I could do them. But I did and I kept up throughout the rest of the class.  The belly dancing class was physically easier but a definite challenge to my coordination.   It was good to see that I could do other things that were outside of my fitness comfort zone.
Almost 500 calories burned at #FitRetreatPhl

My favorite of the workshops was the psychology of food class.  The instructor talked about how to examine all of the areas of our life to see where we were not content.  Being dissatisfied with our lives often leads to using food for comfort.  We discussed the fact that disordered eating (an unhealthy relationship with food) is often a symptom of being unhappy with other aspects of life.  At the end of the workshop the instructor encouraged us to to lead by example and be the kinds of people we want the young girls in our lives to be when they are our age.
Overall Fit Retreat Philly was great.  I look forward to going to other City Fit Girls events and the Retreat again next year.

Have you ever attended a Fitness retreat?  What was it like? Were you at Fit Retreat Philly?

Friday, August 22, 2014

#FlashbackFriday: Chasing Joy & Kids

Woo who! Happy Friday Joy Chasers!

I hope you had a good week.  This week I made my goals public, wrote about ways to avoid common mistakes we make when setting goals, and started the SMART Goal process by making my goals more specific.  If you are in the process of setting some new goals or redefining old one check out those posts and join me in the goal setting process.  

Since it is Friday I bet you are visiting today to join in the #FlashbackFriday linky  #FlashbackFridays is when we give our old posts a little love.  Pick any old post from your blog and add it to the linky below.  You can also share your post on the Chasing Joy Facebook page and on Twitter using the hashtag #FlashbackFriday.

Here are my favorite posts from last weeks link up:
The Right Relationship Challenges You which talks about a show I have been binge watching lately, Married at First Sight.
Things I wish I'd Have Known Before Becoming A Mom which makes me appreciate going to bed each night a little more. 
This week I am linking up Chasing Joy & Kids.  This is a guest post from one of my favorite bloggers MJ about her role as an almost pseudo mom to her fiance's kids.  Lovely post! Check it out! 

What are you linking up this week?

Add the link to one of your favorite oldie but goody blog posts below and find new readers and bloggy friends via the power of the linky!!!

Wednesday, August 20, 2014

Joyfully SMART Goals: S for Specific

Every smart girl needs smart goals!  As I have mentioned I am going to be putting in to practice what I learned about the Law of Attraction at the Chasing Joy Brunch & Learn. On Monday I set some goals and made sure I was avoiding the most common mistakes people make when setting goals.  Now it's time to make my goals SMART.  SMART stands for:
Time Sensitive
Today I am focusing on S for Specific.

Here are my goals
  1. Lose weight
  2. Change my status from single to in a relationship. 
  3. Have more fun
  4. Write 1st draft of my Chasing Joy book.
 Now I need to make them more specific.  I need to make these goals crystal clear. Here goes:

1. Lose weight - Specifically lose 80 lbs and fit into a size 14 regular not woman's size
2. Go from single to in a relationship  - Specifically a committed relationship with a man where we are excited about each other, equally committed, and compatible.
3. Have more fun - Specifically do at least 1 fun activity every week. Fun activities include going to the movies, happy hour, having friends over, meeting friends for dinner, and other interesting things that come up. 
4. Write 1st draft of my Chasing Joy book - Specifically complete book including introduction, all paragraphs, title, and layout.  

Having more fun is the most difficult of my goals to make specific.  Now that I have specified at least one fun activity per week I need to make it a priority to schedule my fun activities early in the week.

What are your goals?  Are they vague or specific? If they are vague how can you make them more specific?

Monday, August 18, 2014

Setting 4 Life Changing Goals

Over the next few weeks I will begin implementing the Law of Attraction (LoA) tools I learned at the Chasing Joy Brunch & Learn. Before I dive in and start using the LoA I need to zero in on what I want to use it for and set some goals.  Last week I asked myself 5 Important Questions to help me zero in on what I'd like to work on.  Now its time to set some goals.
  1. Lose weight
  2. Change my status from single to in a relationship. 
  3. Have more fun
  4. Write 1st draft of my Chasing Joy book.
This is just a rough idea of my goals. I will be refining them a bit more to make them SMART (Specific, Measurable, Actionable, Realistic, & Time sensitive) and to avoid the following most common mistakes that people make when setting goals.  I have made all of these mistakes when setting goals in the past, but am paying attention to avoid them this time.

Common mistakes as explained in the S.H.A.R.E presentation
at the Chasing Joy Brunch & Learn: Law of Attraction

  • Don't write them down  - I am writing them right here.  I think I will make an image in my phone also.
  • Set too many - I don't think four is too many at all. 
  • Not specific -  Writing 1st draft of my book and going from single to in  a relationship are pretty specific.  I do need to define lose weight and have more fun a bit more.  These are too vague.
  • Not measurable  -  How do you measure fun? This is what I need to figure out.  My other goals are measurable. Single or Not - measurable, pounds lost  -  measurable, and chapters written - measurable 
  • No due date - I can create due dates for all of these goals.  It feels a little bizarre to create a due date for finding getting in a relationship/finding a boy friend/ joy chasing partner.  But for the sake implementing the Law of Attraction I will set a due date for that one too.  
  • Not out your comfort zone - Ha! None of this is in my comfort zone.  Publicly answering questions about my fears and the things I want to change and, and setting my goals are all out of my comfort zone.  I am sure some of the things I'll need to do to accomplish these goals will be out of my comfort zone as well.  
  • Not personal - This is a tricky one.  A lot of time people make the mistake of setting goals based off of what other's want for them and not what they want for themselves and therefore, not personal.  All of my goals are based off of my own desires and are personal to me.
  • Not creating a plan of action  -   I will have to do this for all of my goals.  Stay tuned...
Do you want to go through this Law of Attraction process with me?  If so what are two or three goals you want to focus on?  Go through the list of common goal setting mistakes above and make sure you have covered your bases.  What common mistake have you made in the past when setting goals?

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