Wednesday, March 25, 2015

A Dig or Not A Dig, That is the Question

Raise your hand if you think you know when someone is getting in a dig at your expense?  Well I thought I did but now I'm not so sure.

This weekend I had an incident where someone said something to me that at the time I thought was an innocent remark.  Then, about 10 minutes later, after I was no longer around the person, I was like wait a minute, what did they mean by that? Was that a dig??? Now I am a bit ticked off.

I'm not going to go into detail of what was said.  That's not the point of the post.  The point of the post is how annoying it is to be on the receiving end of a passive aggressive comment.  If the person was direct about what there issue was I could have addressed it.  I could have either clarified or defended my position.  Apologies, if needed, could have been said and we all could move on.  But instead I am left wondering was that a dig or was it all in my head?  If it was a dig how do I address it?  If it was a dig I wish I'd have realized it in the moment so that I could have responded appropriately.

As I am an admitted passive aggressive type I should take this experience as a life lesson.  While I am not in the habit of slighting or getting in digs on people I don't often address things head on.  This should serve as a reminder that not addressing things often leads to more misunderstandings and resentments.

Have you ever had a similar experience where after the fact you realized someone was getting in a dig at your expense?  What did you do about it?  Did you say anything after the fact or just let it go?

Monday, March 23, 2015

A Joyful Vision Board

I did it!  I finally did (started) my vision board.

This has been on my to do list for over a year.  I think it was January 2014 when my blogger friend from Your Chic Is Showing invited me over for a vision board part. At that party I clipped out some magazine images but never actually created a board.  As a matter of fact I actually put my poster board and magazine clippings in a closet and never looked at them again until yesterday.

Then in August of 2014 I learned more about vision boards from the ladies of S.H.A.R.E. when they spoke about them and the Laws of Attraction at the Chasing Joy Brunch & Learn.  After the brunch I had every intent to do the board but I never did.

So what made me get it done today?  Well,  If you've been reading the blog the last couple of weeks than you may know that I am hoping/ planning/ praying to become a mom this year.  I want to channel all of my positive attention toward baby making.  In thinking about doing that I kept coming back to needing to get my vision board done.  A couple of weeks ago I purchased two magazines to go through for clippings. Today I finally got down to business and started my vision board.

When I started I though I would be finishing the board today.  I was wrong. I thought I had a lot of clippings to add to the board but I did not have enough.  So I would say right now my vision board is about 65% complete. I am hoping to finish it this week.

While I wont take you through each and every clipping on my board I will tell you a little about it and show a couple of pictures.  I broke my board down into five areas.  From left to right (clockwise) are Love, Health, Confidence, Blogging and Money.  Love contains clippings of my vision for my future husband and children. Health includes my vision of eating right, exercising, losing weight, de-stressing, and getting more sleep.  Confidence is all about me loving myself more accepting my body, trusting my instincts, and embracing my sexuality.  Blogging is all about the Chasing Joy Brand.  Last but certainly not lease is Money which includes clippings on my vision of having a retirement nest egg, increasing my annual salary, and improving my financial position.  Some of my favorite clipping so far are "Go To Bed With A Sure Thing" and the positive pregnancy tests in the love section, "Feeling Good" which really covers both he health and Confidence section, the clip out of Awesomely Luvvie in the Blog section and the picture of the nest egg in the Money section.  You can see form the picture below that I still have too much blank space on my board so It is certainly not complete but I am really happy with what I have so far.

Oh, I almost for got, my favorite thing about the message board is the fact that I have put it all together with push pins.  That means that this is what we'd call a "living document" at work.  It is designed so that I can pull out the pins and rearrange, and change the clippings as my vision evolves.

Have you ever done a vision board?  Did you have categories on it?  What were some of your favorite elements on the board?  Do you think vision boards work or is do you think it is all a bunch of hoopla?

Friday, March 20, 2015

Flashback Friday , Babies, and Happiness

Happy Friday and happy First Day of Spring. It is snowy in Philly today.  Hopefully the last snow day of the year.

If you were on the blog earlier today you might have noticed there was no Friday post up.  I was not sure what I wanted to write about today.  For the last few years I have done the #FlashbackFriday post every Friday.  Lately there does not seem to be many people joining the linky so I am considering letting it go.  What do you guys think?  The purpose of the linky was to share any of your favorite posts and connect with other bloggers but I don't think it is doing that. Do you want me to keep it? What I am considering is replacing Flashback Friday with an update on my Plan B.  You know my plan to become a Single Mother By Choice. Let me know in the comments what your preference is, a blogger link up or regular updates on my journey to mother hood.  Oh, and here is my latest video on becoming a mommy.

Other than today being the first day of Spring, it is also International Day of Happiness.  Overall, happiness has been present with me this week.  I celebrated my birthday and actually got things accomplished at the day job.  One of the happiest feelings I have had has been reflecting on my birthday.  Friends and family came out to celebrate with me, others called, texted, and left me messages on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. We all have moments where we feel alone with our struggles, problems, and stress.  All of the people who wished me well for my birthday served as reminders that I'm not alone that there are people in my life who like  me, enjoy spending time with me, people who love me and wish me well.  This reminder was very much needed, right on time and a source of happiness.

Did you know it was International Day of Happiness?  What has been your greatest source of happiness this week?

Wednesday, March 18, 2015

Age 35 And It's Time For Plan B

Yesterday was my 35th birthday.  I cannot believe I am thirty-five years old.  I feel more like 26 or 27.  I do not feel like I am in my mid thirties.

I have never had a hard time with my birthday.  I actually love my birthday and make every effort to have a great time celebrating it.  This year was no different.  I went out with friends, went to see the ballet Swan Lake with my mom, treated myself to a day of from work, a spa treatment, birthday cake, and dinner out with my mom.  Click here -> for pictures.

The only challenging part about getting older is that my life is not how I imagined it would be.  I bet that most of you face that same challenge.  I thought by the time I was 35 I would feel smarter, be in better shape, have more money, a more fulfilling career, a better house etc, etc, etc...  I am already working on most of these things and actually feel pretty good about my progress even if i am not where I thought I'd be.  The two big things that I do struggle with as I get older are that I thought I would be married and have children by now.  I never imagined I would be 35 with no love interest in sight.  I never imagined I'd be facing the downward slope of my fertile years with no kids.  I know I am a great person who will make a great wife and mother.  It has actually pained me over the years that things have played out this way.

Now don't get me wrong I am not giving up on finding love, on finding my Mr. Joy Chaser. I have just come to the realization that it is time for me to go to plan B.  What is plan B?  Well plan A was love, marriage, followed by the baby carriage.  Plan B just involves switching up the order of things. Plan B is baby carriage, Love followed by marriage.  Yes you read that right.

I think I explain it a little better in this video.

I have forever to find love and get married but I don't have forever to become a mom.

Do you know any Single Mothers By Choice?  Did you decide to become a mom before you decided to get married?

Monday, March 16, 2015

Chasing Joy at Be Beautiful Expo 2015, Recap


Are you on Instagram?  If you are I hope you saw my posts from the Be Beautiful Expo this weekend.  The Expo was this past Saturday at the Philadelphia Convention Center.  I was able to cover the event as press for Chasing Joy.  I was allowed to bring a friend so I invited my friend Channel to Be Beautiful with me.

As I mentioned in my post last week I was automatically interested in attending the Expo when I first heard it advertised because of the name.  I mean Be Beautiful automatically says empowerment, inspiration, and joy to me.  Overall Be Beautiful was a nice event.  I am glad I went and I hope they have it again next year.  Before I go into more detail check out this video to hear what Channel had to say about the Be Beautiful Expo.

Here are my highlights from Be Beautiful.  The Expo was a great event for small businesses.  Most of the vendors present were small business owners.  Everything from natural hair products and authors, to jewelers and dentists were represented.  Maybe next year I'll have a booth for Chasing Joy.  The panel discussion that appealed most to me was the Living Single panel because as you know I have not yet meet my Mr. Joy Chaser.  This panel was really entertaining and covered topics like love at first site, bad pick up lines, women approaching men vs. making it easier for men to approach women, and mama's boys vs. men who love and respect their mothers.  It was fun to see the crowds reactions to the celebrity panelists opinions. A really cool aspect of the Expo were the celebrity sightings.  You did not have to wait until they hit the stage to see them up close and personal.  Another thing that I really liked about the Expo was the app.  It was really well organized with a list of all the vendors and a schedule for the main stage. 
MC Lyte and Sheryl Lee Ralph interacting with #BBXPhilly attendees.
Top: MC Lyte, Bottom: Sheryl Lee Ralph
Celebrities interacting with #BBXPhilly attendees

I really hope Be Beautiful comes back to Philadelphia next year.  I see so many opportunities or the event to get bigger and better. The inclusion of food and concessions would be awesome. Breakout sessions on self esteem, dating, marriage, beauty, would go nicely with the panel discussions.  I see this expo being a great thing for women and girls in Philly.  I hope there is a Be Beautiful Expo 2016.

Where you at Be Beautiful Expo?  I'd love to hear what you thought of the event. Leave me a comment below.

This is a sponsored post for the Be Beautiful Expo 2015 all opinions are 100% my own.

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