Saturday, April 19, 2014
I love a good quote. I love them so much I have an entire page dedicated to them on this site. See the quotes link above?
Sometimes it is hard to put our own feelings and emotions into words. In those cases a good quote can get the job done. That's why the greeting card industry is always popping. Other times it's not so much about using a quote to describe how we feel but using it instead as a source of inspiration or encouragements.
My Favorite Quote:
"Remember this, humans are not defined by their limitations, but by the intentions that I (God) have for them; not by what they seem to be, but by everything it means to be created in my (God's) image" ~ William P. Young, The Shack.
You can find a quote for almost any occasion.
Missed Opportunities - "When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us." ~ Helen Keller
Encouragement - "Use your talent (everybody has one) in anyway you can. Don't keep it for yourself like a miser - spend it like a millionaire!" ~ Lucy MacDonald
When other's don't believe in you - "The greatest pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do." ~ unknown
Decision Making - “As you become more clear about who you really are, you'll be better able to decide what is best for you - the first time around.” Oprah Winfrey
Life Change - "Courage is the power to let go of the familiar." ~ Raymond Lindquist
Persistence - “Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow.” ~ Mary Anne Radmache
Going against the crowd - "It takes more courage to reveal insecurities than to hide them, more strength to relate to people than to dominate them, more 'manhood' to abide by thought-out principles rather than blind reflex. Toughness is in the soul and spirit, not in muscles and an immature mind.” ~ Alex Karras
Happiness - “Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections.” ~ unknown
Friendships - "Find people who will make you better." ~ Michelle Obama
Anger - "You can live your life angry, bitter, mad at somebody or even guilty, not letting go of your own mistakes, but you won't receive the good things God has in store." ~ Joel Osteen
These and many more quotes can be found on the quotes page here on Chasing Joy. Do you have a favorite quote? If so, share it in the comments below.
Friday, April 18, 2014
Flashback Friday is when we link up one of our older posts that needs a little love. You can link up any post you like, but the idea is to link up an older one, and give it new life via the power of the linky. The only rule is to be sure to visit AT LEAST TWO other links. If you are first to link up be sure to come back and visit some of the later links. You can also share your post on the Chasing Joy Facebook page and tweet about the linky using the #FlashbackFriday Hashtag. This week I am linking up a post full of pictures from my first Blogalicous Conference back in 2011.
My favorite post from last week's linky is Old Twitter Followers Being Swept Away. Usually we are thinking about how to get more twitter followers. In this post Lisa is giving us the how to and reasons why we may want to unfollow folks on Twitter.
So what did you pick? Which of your blog posts are you linking up for #FlashbackFriday?
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Thursday, April 17, 2014
Four years ago when I started this blog I created a list of new things to do to avoid boredom. Trying new things is one way to have more experiences, meet new people, create memories and take in a little Joy. An idle mind is the Devil's workshop. So I named my list of activities to try the Devil's Workshop list.
I had one thing on my list that I had given up on. I actually thought it was no longer a possibility. So what is it? Go to the Oprah show. Back in March of 2010 I wrote, "Go to the Oprah show – I signed up with the Oprah website for the drawings for show tickets. I hope I’m lucky enough to draw tickets before her last show." Now four years later I am going to the Oprah show. OK, I'm not going to the Oprah Show but I am going to see her. A couple of weeks ago my cousin texted me to let me know Oprah is going on tour and will be in DC for two days this fall. I immediately purchased my tickets. I purchased my tickets before I knew what the tour was about and before I knew who would be coming with me. This was possible as close as I would come to crossing this off of my list so I jumped at the chance.
I have always liked Oprah. I started watching it consistently when I was in college. Not all of her shows were that interesting to me as I was not in her target market (wives and mothers) but I just liked her. I like her personality and her work ethic. I like her openness and her generosity. I admire her accomplishments. My dad often pointed her out as an example of a successful black woman who had a good life that did not depend on her having a traditional role as wife and mother (not that there's anything wrong with that, being a wife and mother is definitely in my plans)
Now that I am a blogger, I also love how she has branded herself. The fact that I would purchase tickets (that were not cheap) because it was her event while knowing nothing about the event speaks volumes to the power of the Oprah brand. I want to be like that one day. I want people to search for ways to register for Chasing Joy events before they even know the topics because they know and love my brand.
Now that a few weeks have planned I have looked into the event a little more. The tour is called Oprah's The Life You Want Weekend. The tour is going to 8 cities. On Friday Oprah will be presenting. On Saturday members of her crew will be presenting. By her crew I mean people like Iyanla Vanzant, Deepak Chopra, and others.
I am super excited to be going to see Oprah this fall. I am thankful for my cousin who wants to come with me. I am even more thankful for my cousin (owner of Pink Diamond Athletics check her out) for letting me know about the tour.
Do you have a list of interesting things you'd like to try or experience? Have you ever been to see Oprah either during her Oprah show days or at one of her more recent events? Would you ever buy tickets to an event without knowing anything about it just based off of who would be headlining?
Wednesday, April 16, 2014
N is for No as in No Negative Self-Talk!!!
I have said it before, but it is definitely worthy of repeat. No Negative Self-Talk. Negative thinking is one of the worse joy thieves there is because we do it to ourselves. We all do it from time to time. Think you don't check out the 9 types of negative thoughts. I bet you will see one or two that are familiar. Our negative thoughts are often the biggest obstacle between us and joy. So don't do it. Learn to recognize your negative thoughts. Make an effort to stop them as fast as possible. Replace them with positive thoughts. Turn your negative What Ifs (full of dread) into positive What Ifs (full of hope).
Is Negative Thinking a problem for you? Have you identified your negative thought triggers (certain people, places, or situations)? What do you do to stop when you find yourself in the middle of a negative thought?
Tuesday, April 15, 2014
Ugh, this dating game should come with clearer rules and instructions. Some say the rules have changed from previous generations. Others say the rules can be found in books like He's Just Not That Into You or Act Like a Woman Think Like A Man. Maybe there are no real rules. Perhaps the rules are obsolete and irrelevant like the ones untouched in the Monopoly box. I simply keep rolling the dice and making moves, hoping to land on Love. Unfortunately the odds have not been in my favor and the game keeps sending me back to start.
Here is just a small sampling of the hodgepodge of dating rules I've heard over the years.
- Let the guy make the first move
- Women should go for what they want
- The guy should pay on the first date
- The girl should offer to leave a tip on the first date but the guy should refuse to let her
- No Sex on the first date
- Sex on the first date is fine if the chemistry is there
- Wait 90 days before getting frisky
- There is no special time limit for intimacy do it when it feels right
- Wait for marriage, why buy the cow.... (women should never be referred to as cows by the way)
- The guy should be more into the girl than she is into him.
- Be open and honest about your feelings
- Don't be too needy
- Don't except last minute dates, you have to teach a person how you like to be treated
- Be easy going and go with the flow.
Is it just me or are there quite a few contradictions? LOL Now, while us single gals are navigating the rules or lack there of we also have to navigate all of the different personalities out there.
There's' the guy:
- who thinks he wants something serious until things start to get serious and he bails.
- who wants to get married so bad that he doesn't even bother to get to know you at all before proclaiming you are the one.
- who pretends to be doing quite well for himself financially then gets upset with you when he cannot keep up the front.
- who can't even commit to a date. He suggests things then will "let you know" if he can actually make it..
- who lives with his mom so all visits have to be at your house
- who is in a cult
- who thinks being insulting and critical is cute. Telling a girl her "convo is wack" will not get you anywhere.
Have you been lucky in love? Do any of these rules or types of guys sound familiar to you? What is your best advice for navigating the singles scene.