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Saturday, November 27, 2010

Chasing Joy or Maybe Just Escaping Loneliness


Joy has turned the corner and is out of my sights :-( In other words I have been feeling a little down lately, or more specifically lonely. It has been almost a year since my last relationship ended and I have been on exactly ZERO dates. That's right none, naught, nil, nada, zip, zilch, ZERO. Yes, I am as surprised as you are.

Now, I have met a few men but no one that I was even remotely attracted to or interested in. There was one possible, but after some conversation we realized our religious/spiritual beliefs were to dissimilar for anything other than friendship to be pursued. I have gone out a bit more often, frequented different supermarkets, etc, and made new friends. I have put it out there to friends that I am ready to date. I have even dabbled a bit with online dating, OK cupid, eharmonhy, and, exchanged emails and even phone numbers. But all to no avail.

Prior to my last relationship, about three years ago, I recall it being a bit easier to meet suitable /datable men. A year is an awfully long dry spell. Is this dating after 30??? Or has my definition of suitable / datable men changed? In the last 3 years have all the suitable / datable men tied the knot, gotten in to "it's complicated" type relationships with baby mamas, or secured a permanent residence in friend zone??? hmm....

So I remind my self that loneliness is just a feeling and it will pass (see Life Lessons: Feelings vs. Reality) Droughts are temporary and are usually followed by the rainy season. Eventually it will be raining men. :-) Therefore, I resist the urge to lower my standards or date someone I have no desire to spend time with just for the sake of dating. I resist the urge to second guess my own awesomeness because I have not come across a Man that I want to date. I resist the urge to assume that I have missed my chance of meeting someone because I am 30 and single.

Instead I will focus on all of the Joys of Being Single and pick up my pace so that I can get Joy back in my sights.

Friday, November 19, 2010

Feel Good Friday - Yes, There Is An App. For That


Happy Feel Good Friday!!!

Today I came across this article, Bible App Hits 10 Million Downloads,
on CNN. Feeling spiritually connected to something bigger than yourself
(I call it God) can be a great source of Joy. Having spiritual beliefs
give me hope and optimism because I know God has and will continue to
bless me. The Bible is filled with stories of people over coming all
sorts of obstacles and can therefore serve as a source of inspiration.
It serves as a moral compass that helps to keep us civilized. So today
I am feeling very good that in addition to having instant access to
facebook, twitter, you tube, the weather, sports scores, games, email,
and music via our cell phones. We can also have instant access to the
Bible, a definite road map assisting me in Chasing Joy. Yes, there is an
app for that.

Monday, November 15, 2010

Make it Happen Mondays!!! - Reinventing Monday


We are reinventing Mondays. We are not facing them with dread. We are facing them with optimism and pro-activity. We are setting goals that will allow us to have a Joy filled week and Making it Happen.

Here are my goals for this week:

Work: Get my emails under control, submit 3 things for my supervisor to review, and get caught up on the things I review for others.

Health: Not have carbs after 8:00pm and have some raw veggies daily

Personal: Schedule blood work and surgery for my dog. Formalize plans for Larchwood Reunion (if you are alumni please check out the invite and join us). Put together my kitchen chairs from IKEA.

Devil's workshop goals: Research Volunteer opportunities.

We all know what to do, Avoid coming down with A Case of the Mondays, Beware Joy Thieves, focus on your goals and Make it Happen and have a Great Joyous week.

What are your goals for a Joy filled week??? Commit to them by putting them in writing here.

Monday, November 8, 2010

Make it Happen Mondays!!!


Last Monday I posted a message to my Joy Chasers on Facebook reminding them to be careful not to come down with A Case of The Mondays. A Joy Chaser and friend replied that she liked to look at Mondays as "an opportunity to set short-term goals for the week and work through the week to achieve them." This is such a great idea. I love Chasing Joy with you all because you offer such inspirational and positive, ideas and feed back.

Remember from my earlier post, Joy, Joy, Where Art Thou, or What are Thou?, The Merriam Webster definition of Joy is the emotion evoked by well-being, success, or good fortune or by the prospect of possessing what one desires. When you accomplish a goal it means your ideas and actions where properly aligned to produce the out come you wanted. You have experienced success. You have achieved something you desire. You have grasped a little bit of Joy for yourself.

So, let take on Monday full force. Let's set some short term goals and MAKE IT HAPPEN!!!

My goals are:

1. To not have carbs after 8:00 pm this week
2. To have some raw veggies every day this week
3. To write up two different documents for my supervisor's review

What are your goals for the week???

Friday, November 5, 2010

Feel Good Friday - Dog Philosophy


Happy Happy Feel Good FRIDAY!!!

So this week I am really feeling good because things are looking up for my dog. In my post The Joy of Hurt I asked you all to pray for him. Thank you all for doing so. While it turns out that he does have cancer, I think it will be removing and his overall prognosis is for a good outcome. So in honor of Hurt I'm posting this great post from I received it as a forward from a great friend who has been Chasing Joy with me from day 1 (Shout out to Bethann). We can learn a lot about Chasing Joy from dogs.

"If you live by these dog rules, you will be a happier person!
There's a lot we humans can learn from dogs. If you live your life by the same philosophy that dogs do, you will be much better off in life. In the wild, animals fight only for two things, not a fancy car, not clothes or jewelry, they just fight for food or a mate, everything else they get after that is just pure happiness.

Dog Philosophy:

1. Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joy ride.
2. Allow the experience of fresh air and the wind in your face to be pure ecstasy.
3. When loved ones come home, always run and greet them.
4. When it's in your best interest, always practice obedience.
5. Let others know when they've invaded your territory.
6.Take naps and always stretch before rising.
7. Run, romp and play daily.
8. Eat with gusto and enthusiasm.
9. Be loyal.
10. Never pretend to be something you're not.
11. If what you want lies buried, dig until you find it.
12. When someone is having a bad day, be silent, sit close by and nuzzle them gently.
13. Delight in the simple joys of a long walk.
14. Thrive on attention and let people touch you.
15. Avoid biting when a simple growl will do.
16. On hot days, drink lots of water and lie under a shady tree.
17. When you're happy, dance around and wag your entire body.
18. No matter how often you are criticized, don't buy into the guilt thing and pout. Run right back and make friends."

My favorite dog Philosophies are:
12. When someone is having a bad day, be silent, sit close by and nuzzle them gently
18. No matter how often you are criticized, don't buy into the guilt thing and pout. Run right back and make friends.

What is your favorite philosophy?
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